I’ve had some unforgettable experiences over the past few years, travelling around Australia in a caravan.
I have laughed and cried, conquered unknown territory, solved problems on the fly and even faced some fears. I can say that I’ve been through it all. Life on the road has been a rollercoaster, filled with all of the ups and downs.
But, sometimes you can feel a door closing before it even happens… when it’s time for one chapter to come to an end, all you can do is surrender to it.
Breaking up with a partner while travelling was never going to be easy.
Originally posted 12 February, 2021.
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Breaking up While Travelling is Tough
I’m not going to get into the personal details of why we decided to go our separate ways, but I do want to talk about how the situation panned out for me.
It was early 2020 when the pandemic storyline started to play out across the world and within Australia.
We were in Sydney at the time and had a few days to make the choice on whether or not we should pack up and go back to Queensland (our home state), before the borders closed. We did make the snap decision to head back to Brisbane while the lockdown scenario played out.
Our initial plan was to get back to Sydney and continue on with the journey once we were able to. But, during the next few months as we sat idle, it became increasingly obvious that we were all craving a home base. The kids were especially keen to settle down and have their own bedrooms.
So, it seemed time to get a house again, pick up 9-5 jobs and finish our travels in extended stints. However, personal circumstances found us making the decision to go our separate ways instead.
It’s been a bit of a journey, traversing this completely new territory, but now that the kids and I have settled into our new lives, we are all much happier people.
Did Living on the Road Cause the Break Up?
I can honestly say that no, living on the road certainly did not cause us to break up while travelling. So, if you’re reading this post thinking, “Oh my god, will my partnership survive full-time travel?!” then fear not. If your relationship is solid, you’ll most likely be just fine.
My partner and I got together when we were just 19 years old and the first baby came along when I was 23. I look back and think, “gosh, I was still just a babe myself!”
Some relationships that start during those earlier years can grow together forever, while others change, leading to different pathways. There is no right or wrong scenario… but for me, the ending was long overdue.
It was one of those toxic relationships where you become so accustomed to the highs and lows that you find yourself subconsciously clinging to the vicious cycle of something that you should have walked away from years ago.
Being stuck in a backyard in lockdown made my reality blaring obvious, with no more places to run away to and distract myself with. It was time.
Was it Because We Lived in a Caravan?
So, I guess the next question on everyone’s mind is, “Did living in such confined quarters cause us to break up?”
Again, no, living in a caravan didn’t cause the inevitable ending of the relationship. We all adapted to that different way of living and found how to make it work.
However, I definitely know there are many people who wouldn’t be able to live in such a tiny space and still get along.
The key is to be aware of when someone needs some time to themselves and let them have it. Whether that be putting some headphones on to tune out for a while, sitting outside, or going for a walk or a drive.
The beauty of following the warmer weather around is that most of your living is done outdoors anyway (besides the dreaded rainy days).
What’s Next for Me?
As I’ve mentioned, we’re all getting pretty settled into what our new lives look like. We’ve managed to work things so that the kids spend as much time as possible with each of us. They are our main priority and we want for them to have a solid upbringing with both parents being present for them, regardless of where we live.
I’ve got myself a nice townhouse in the suburbs of Brisbane, which I’m really content with and am continuing as a full-time blogger. There’s no way I could go back to the rat race after living a lifestyle with so much freedom!
Yep, I’m living proof that it’s totally possible to support yourself through blogging. It didn’t come easy and a million hours of unpaid work were first required (I wish I was exaggerating!).
But in all honesty, I wouldn’t have been able to walk away and support myself and two kids without this blog backing me. So, thank you to the hundreds of thousands of readers who’ve unknowingly allowed me a different kind of freedom. 🙏
The caravan was put up for sale and interestingly was bought by a mining company who wanted to provide outback accommodation for their workers.
The kids have been going to a local school since mid 2020 and are fairly settled. They still have their days of feeling the pressure of showing up for long hours each day and the amount of school work to be completed.
After having so much educational freedom on the road, it’s been a big adjustment for them. Dom and Indii particularly love finally having their own bedrooms, a dog and permanent friends that they don’t need to say goodbye to.
The Future of MY RIG Adventures
On a positive note, MY RIG Adventures is here to stay!
The blog was always my own personal passion project as I traversed the nomadic journey, right from the very beginning.
I thrive on putting together informative guides, reviews, stories and resources. Not only do I love to share valuable information from my own experiences, but I also get a real kick out of being able to help others with their own travels.
Occasionally I collaborate with other travellers to help provide location-based content on places that I haven’t yet been. Since I can’t be everywhere on the ground, it’s always helpful to draw on the experiences of others to create a community of shared information.
If you’d like to contribute a helpful camp review or destination guide, please reach out to me at email@example.com.
In addition, I’ve got many more travel resources and informative posts in the works. Look out for the complete collection of the Big Things checklists for each state of Australia!
Reflections for Those in a Similar Situation
First off the bat, breaking up at any time is hard, but breaking up while travelling and still having to live in a caravan in the meantime… that’s next level! I was lucky to have been in my hometown at the time, which made arrangements much more manageable.
If you do find yourself on the road during a break up, the best advice I can give is to not isolate yourself. Get in touch with trusted people back home, whether it’s through phone calls, chat messages or video chats.
Also, don’t be afraid to open up to other travellers – they are the ones who will truly know how it feels to be 1,000 kms from home and feeling totally alone.
Give yourself all of the space and time you need to process, reflect and heal.
Maybe that means finding somewhere nice to hide out for a while, or you may be better off heading home to take some time out and recalibrate.
There are most likely a whole host of practicalities that will need to be sorted, especially if there are children and/ or joint assets and belongings involved.
Be kind to yourself,
Take all the time you need,
Stay connected with loved ones,
Reach out for help.
I’d like to show my gratitude to everyone who has reached out during this period of ‘mysterious disappearance.’ It’s been heartwarming to have had so many people checking in to make sure that we’re okay and still alive. I’m genuinely grateful!
And now, the show must go on!
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Kind Words from the Email Community
A difficult time and some of us have been through it all, it happens. Take note, and I didn’t believe it at first, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Keep the moral high ground, take each day as it comes and don’t sweat the small shit. Look forward to your continuing adventures and trust the kids are shielded and loved, which I am sure they are. Life goes on.
Thank you so much for sharing. I’ve always been single (65 and never married). I’ve been on the road full time in my small motorhome (VW Crafter). I know travelling full time wasn’t ‘the‘ reason… but I couldn’t imagine having to share “my space” with another, besides my cat. Sounds like you are going really well considering, so good luck with everything and take care.
All the best. I hope it all goes well for you and you can get back to doing what you love.
I will continue to support you, stay strong.
Ahhhh, sorry to hear about your break up. You’re doing a great job with your travelling news and looking forward to more. Keep up the good work and hopefully everything works out.